Situations encountered by only child to parents

I wanted to write about this long back. As I am only child to my parents; I know how it would be. Let me brief you some points about being the only child.

1.     Questions from outsiders:

I don’t know why they ask such stupid questions. As if all the single children are breaded in zoo.

“Aren't you bored all the day?” 

Of course not!! Why should we? We are in our house/room with parents, not in jail. I wonder whether the homes with multiple kids were ever bored.

“Ask your parents to give you a sibling”

This is the most stupid statement given by our neighbouring aunties gave us. For your information, they are not chocolates!!
That decision belongs to my parents.

“You must be enjoying your father's hereditary”

By the way, who’s hereditary that you were enjoying?

2.     No competitions all ours parents love:

Yes!! I can proudly say that my parents love is not shared. You think I am selfish? Let it be.

Remember last time when you became jealous when your parents asked you to share your chocolates with your sibling.

3.     Broad mind towards cousins and friends:

We open our arms wide for all our cousins and friends. We don’t limit our brotherly/sisterly love to one or two persons. See how broad minded we are!!

4.     Becomes extrovert or introvert/more straight forward:

Being single child, we talk extremely less or more not in between. And we talk straight. Less drama everywhere!!!!

5.     Cultivates proper hobby:

Don’t know whether a kid with siblings depends on hobby or not. We depend on hobby completely and deeply.

6.     Slight remorse on Rakshabandhan:

On the day of Rakshabandhan, our social media would be filled with brother sister pictures, and quotes about their love. Sometimes it makes us sad.

7.     We are creative!!!

We spend more time alone, our imagination will be strong. Fictional play, imaginative friends, alternate universe, we had done it!!

8.     Everything is new:

Did you experience using your brother’s or sister’s clothes, books, cycle? Hahaha.. We will get brand new ones every time.

9.     No issues of privacy:

We don’t share our room with our siblings, so no issues of privacy. My life!! My rules!!

10. Parents become best friends:

As we are only child, our parents focus will be on us. We talk anything and everything with them. They become our first advisors and best friends.

There may be many benefits of having siblings. But being only child makes us more independent, self sufficient and ever loving child.

After Independence day

We celebrated August 15, Independence day with pride.

Felt Patriotism, watched movies that boost patriotism.
Stick flag on our chest
We cannot accept disrespect to our National flag isn't it?

Stick flags on our shirts.
Placed flags on our vehicles.
Decorated our workplaces with flags.
Sang Patriotic songs,watched Independence day celebrations at RedFort and felt equally proud.

But what happens to all these flags after Independence day?
I found some shocking pictures.
DISCLAIMER: Offensive content ahead

Did your blood boil after seeing these pictures?
This is the scenario after Independence day.

If you cannot dispose our pride properly, it is not recommended to buy flag. No one ever asked you to display your love towards nation.
Let me tell you the proper way of disposing our national flag

Let us buy Indian flags, celebrate our most important day, also let us dispose our flag with dignity.

Bravest thing

I was scared of dogs!!! Even though they are adorable!!

Right from my childhood I was scared. If I see a dog at the street end, I would had been running away from the other end.

My friends used to tease me for my fear of dogs.

I used to build a human castle with friends when I found a dog on street.

I stopped going to houses, which have dogs!!

On a fine day, I decided to break my fear.

I went to one of my neighbor’s house, who have a pet dog, started to spend time with them. During that time, dog came near me, smelled, tried to touch me and I tried to touch her.

My neighbor is a sweet lady, encouraged me to get friendly with her dog and controlled her dog.

After 1 week

I became friendly ( rather I should say Dog became friendly with me) with dog, almost loved it. I liked the way she expressed her love. I liked the way she greeted me, the way she missed me.

I was surprised how pebbles ( dog) changed my perception. I missed her daily greetings, when she went for a tour.

Even we both posed for photos, the bravest thing I have ever done.

Decision

Her decision shook their family. Her in laws,husband even her parents were shocked to hear this from her.

Sandhya's gaze fixed at her right hand thumb and index finger and rest of all other eyes fixed at her.

"Speak out Sandhya!! Why do you want an abortion?" Said one of the voice.

"This is inhuman. Whats wrong with you?", cried husband.

Because sandhya wanted an abortion of her 3months pregnency and she is a mother of 3 year old baby.

"Your son needs a brother or sister.", Mother in law said pleasingly.

"Look dear, you have a beautiful family, let the family photo be completed", mother said sitting beside her.

"I want abortion. I cant bear this child",sandhya spoke for the second time.

"Dont be so stubborn!! Tell me the reason", husband voice becoming louder.

"Once I saw this pregnency, delivery, taking care of baby, ufff!!! I'm exhausted! I can't bear this again." said sandhya, trying to be calm.

" Are you a mother? How can you talk like that?", Her mother in law disgustingly.

"Yes! I'm not a mother. I'm a devil. Do you think I hate my children, or a life  breathing in my body? No", her voice became more clear, and louder,"I faced depression in these years, no one ever helped me,even you!!" Pointing at her husband.
"Initially I was happy be coming a mother. But gradually I lost myself",her eyes were talking more louder than her lips.

"I faced post patrum depression. You say it's normal for every new mother, you think moms will be habituated?? It's hell to them. No proper sleep, food, even we for no time for bathroom."

"Severe blood loss, rapid weight gain made me physically weak.Just because I love my baby I sacrificed all these. But I am not habituated.", she paused for a moment.

"Taking care of toddler is not an easy process. No one can help me. No one can do what I do. During this time I lost myself. I didn't wear a minimum sensible dress in these years, because of the fear of getting spoiled by pee or poop or milk or baby food. You guys saw baby's cuddles and kisses, but I also saw baby's traumas, irritations.

I comb my hair for every 2 days. Baby's sleep timings didn't match with mine so I got dark circles around my eyes. I couldn't reduce my weight. I used to have 3-4 breaks during lunch/dinner. Sometimes I didnt want to eat after cleaning a diaper. I didn't go outside for many months not even a movie or dinner. When ever I go, my hand bag is replaced with diaper bag, baby food, milk bottles."

"I am not happy with killing a life. But I did vote for me this time. Yes I'm selfish!! Couldn't fulfill all your dreams.I want some peace now.

"Handling the tantrums thrown by toddler, is like walking on eggshells. I lost my me-time. I don't have any recreation other than spending time with child. Only time I has is 10 minutes in restroom."

It doesn't mean I don't love my child. I handled it patiently once. I don't want it again. My body cannot resist all this stress again. I love my kid, but I can't love motherhood again"

Leaving others speech less,Sandhya left the room.
She made a decision!!

Mother's day???

In view of mother's day, my WhatsApp Instagram accounts flooded with mother's day wishes and pictures how they love their Mom.
I never understand why we celebrate mother's day?!! Just one day in an year?? Forget and judge her remaining 364 days?
Why??
Every mom is judged for breastfeeding in public.
Not all husbands can handle post patrum depression.
All family members, prompAts how to be a good mom!!
Every head in between two ears, nod for the idea, to drop your career, just because you are a mother!!
School teachers or other mothers point out flaws in you and suggests how to rear kids.
Even own children will ask sometimes, "what did you do as a mother to me?"

Every person, whether it's a male or female, judge mothers.
Without mothers we are nothing. A
Our luxeries are the sacrifices they made.
Our illness becomes reason for mother's pain.
Our depression becomes reason for mother's agony.
Our hunger is mom's hunger.
Whom ever comes as obstacle in our path, moms will come to rescue (even if it is Dad, mom doesn't care)

All the sisters, daughters, wives, mothers are futures and present mothers. Let us shower our love everyday on them, not only on a single day.

Why adversities are good??

No person life is a cakewalk. It has both difficulties and luxuries. Thus it attains equilibrium. From the time of Ramayana and Mahabharata, this cycle continued. It makes me realize few things.

1. Difficult times brings the most bravest person within us : Comfort and ease cannot bring out the brave side of us, only difficult times does. Of course it gives agony, but it makes us fight, makes us strong and brave. In Ramayana, Lord Hanuman seeing his soldiers tensed faces, he decided to fly to Lanka. Until then he doesn't know he can do it. Adverse conditions makes us brave.

2. It blows off the masks of the people: When you are in misfortune, you can see the real colors of your family or friends. During Draupadi's Disrobement (Draupadi Vastrapaharanam) her own father-in-law, the King turned blind eye on her. Our problems will show the true colors of people.

3.There is something that we can learn from this: "Every lesson comes with the mask of problem". In Mahabharata, during exile Pandavas didn't waste time of 12 years. Arjuna got "Pasupatastram",  most powerful astra in war, and Yudhistara learnt "Aksha satra", science of dice, by which, even if he invited to dice game again, Yudhistara can win.

4. Teaches us how to let go and accept the present: Some times, we cannot do with problems, either is financial, psychological or physical, other than accepting it. There's nothing wrong in that. Pandavas who ruled whole India, once were on exile and did their daily chores by themselves, served a small king Virata. They accepted the situation and acted upon.

5.Makes us strong and balanced: It's obvious that difficult times throws us in unstable mental condition. In order to come up we need a strong and balanced mind. In Ramayana, Lord Rama was in deep agony when Seetha Maa was kidnapped. Her didn't lose his temper on Laxmana, who left her behind. With balanced mind, he fought for Seetha Maa. 

Many people may not believe Ramayana and Mahabharata was happened. But there's nothing wrong in taking lessons from those.

If you encounter a wolf, and you have no help, take "bravery" as a sword from your soul, and fight with wolf called "Problem".

If you fail or succeed, you will know how to deal with wolves. Remember there's no place for cowards in forest!! Nothing can substitute Experience!!!!

Best advice!!!

Once my dad was pressurised in his office to sign a file. He was a government employee. He rejected it directly, but his boss and boss's boss already took bribe and forced my father to sign the particular file.
My dad rejected the file as it was out of norms. The whole office were against my dad, forced him to sign the file.

At dinner, we discussed the situation.I asked my dad, why didn't you sign the file when you are so much pressurised? My dad answered,  "Remember my words!! Dont leave your morals for anything or anyone else. It may be fear (of losing something) or desire (of having something) never ever leave your morals!! You do your duty perfectly, rest will be good. I'm in a responsible public service post, I don't care what the boss says. I was bothered only the file is as per norms or not. Even when you got pressure from your peers or boss, you stick to your duty. No one can threaten you."

I couldn't forget that words!!

P.S: My father stood stubborn, he got ready for transfers. This prolonged up to 3weeks, suddenly, the district collector came to this scene and stood beside my father and encouraged not to sign the file. The problem ended peacefully.

Costliest machine!!!

Once I went to hospital with a relative. I saw many diabetic patients waiting for their appointment. A poster caught my attention.
"Walk for 1 hour a day
Near to health and far from doctor"

I was not a fitness freak before, but I couldn't get over that line.
I saw many people who were diabetic, balancing their time and food equally to maintain the sugar levels.
If they don't eat on time, sugar levels will be decreased.
If they eat more, sugar levels will be increased.
Both are unhealthy practices for them.
Why is this happened??
Just because we are all habituated to sit whole day and sleep in the night, without any exercise.
In 2017, an estimated 8.8 percent of the adult population worldwide had diabetes. This figure is projected to rise to 9.9 percent by the year 2045.
Wake up before our health goes out of hands.
10minutes of breathing excercise can reduce clots in brain &improves respiratory system.
30min walk can improve digestion.
3liters of water a day can purify our kidneys.
Brushing after every meal reduces your dental bills.
10minutes meditation can reduce stress levels.
These are all minimum things with zero cost can improve your health.

In 24 hours,if we dedicate an hour towards our body, that will help ourselves alot.
Even machines need servicing once in a while. Our body is the most costliest machine,that need servicing daily.
Let our children play under sun, in mud. Never bother about infections. It's better than video games. Healthy lifestyle is the only best gift you can give to your kids.
Let's get out of couch, walk,run or do yoga!!

Do whatever, that saves your body machine.

Stich in time, saves nine.

Early Valentine

All our apartment ladies meet at ground stairs, just for evening talks.

Yesterday, one of our resident’s daughter came with some gift packs in her hand and waved at us.

“Hi Ms.B, school over?”, I called her.

“Yes aunty, went for gift shopping” , she replied.( Its sucks when some one calls you aunty in your late 20’s. By the way she is 11–12 years old)

“Is your sister’s birthday coming?”, other lady asked her. I am recollecting her sister’s birthday.

“No, one of our classmate proposed me few days back, tomorrow is valentines day, so I'm going to give him a gift and going on a date”, she replied casually.

We were like

“WHAT??!!”

SHE IS 11 YEARS OLD. TALKING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND DATING?

She bought some valentines day card, a dark chocolate, and heart shaped Key chain and other stuff.

She used more words like baby, my -ex, crush, insta-feed, late night messages in her conversation.

I couldn't digest what she said.

What is she saying to her younger sister?

Get into relation as soon as you hit 10 years.

For every Feb14, buy something in heart shape or chocolates and gift it to somebody. But make sure you get something in return.

I don't think her parents accept this kind of freedom at this age.

What if her relation crosses the line?

If the other person takes advantage, what will happen to her life?

She is immature to understand the upcoming consequences. It may or maynot happen but there is nothing wrong in being cautious.

I was really shocked at her attitude.

Next 10 minutes I told her to concentrate on her studies and skills. These relationships can wait.

She may think that I’m nagging, but at some ponit of time she may remember my words.

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ఒకప్పుడు

మార్క్ జుకేర్బర్గ్ ఏ ముహూర్తనమొదలు పెట్టాడో కానీ యువత ని బాగా ఆకట్టుకుంది.అప్పటివరకూ పిల్లల్ని చదువు విషయం లో మాత్రమే తిట్టే తల్లితండ్రులకు కొత్త కోణం దొరికింది.
స్మార్ట్ ఫోన్ లు వచ్చాక దానికి ఇంకా డిమాండ్ పెరిగింది.

" ఎప్పుడు చూసినా ఆ ఫేస్ బుక్ లో ఉంటావు ఎం చేస్తార్రా!!" ఒక బంధువు అనుమానం.

"మా పిల్లలు అస్సలు చదవట్లేదండి, పొద్దున్న లేవగానే ఫేసుబుక్ ఓపెన్ చేస్తాడు.ఇంక అంతే!ఆ ఫోన్ లించి బుర్ర పైకి ఎత్తరు" ఒక తండ్రి ఆగ్రహం.

"ఈ సెల్ వచ్చాక పిల్లలు ఎం తింటున్నారో కూడా చూస్కోవట్లేదు.తిండికి ఫోటో మాత్రం తీసుకుంటారు" ఒక తల్లి ఆవేదన.

"హే నేను పెట్టిన 'ఇడ్లి తింటున్నా 'అనే పోస్ట్ కి ఎన్ని  లైక్స్ వచ్చాయో చూసావా?" ఒక ఫ్రెండ్ ఆనందం.

"పిల్లలు పాడైపోతున్నారు ఈ ఫేస్బుక్ వచ్చాక.పెళ్లిళ్లు కూడా ఫేస్బుక్ లొనే చేసేసుకుంటున్నారు. అసలు ఈ ఫేస్బుక్ ని బాన్ చెయ్యాలి" ఒక పెద్దాయన ఆక్రోశం.

తల్లి తండ్రి, చుట్టుపక్కల వాళ్ళు,బంధువులు, ఇంటికొచ్చేవాళ్ళు, ఆఖరికి మన ఇంటి పనిమనుషులు అందరికి వచ్చిన కామన్ డౌట్ పిల్లలు అంతంత సేపు సెల్ ఫోన్లో ఎం చేస్తున్నారు? ఏం చేస్తున్నారు?

వైఫై కట్టేసే తల్లిదండ్రులు కొంతమంది అయితే, సెల్ ఫోన్ లాగేసుకునే వాళ్ళు కొంతమంది. ఫేస్బుక్ దారుణాలు పేపర్ లో చదివి ఆందోళన పడేవాళ్ళు కొంత మంది అయితే, ఇవన్ని చదివి పిల్లల్ని ఫేస్బుక్ కి దూరం గా ఉండమని నెత్తి నోరు కొట్టుకునేవాళ్లు కొంత మంది.

ఇవన్నీ ఎందుకని పిల్లలు కొంత మంది పెద్దవాళ్లను ఫేస్బుక్ లోకి తీస్కొచారు, కొంతమంది పెద్దవాళ్ళు పిల్లల్ని అడిగి వచ్చారు,కొంత మంది ఏం జరుగుతుందో చూడడానికి వచ్చారు.. అక్కడే మొదలయ్యింది "సీనియర్ ఫేస్బుక్".

ప్రస్తుతం
(చాలా మంది ఫేస్బుక్ లోకి వచ్చేసారు.వారిలో సీనియర్ సిటిజన్స్ ని మాత్రమే నేను వర్గీకరించాను.)

1.భక్తజనం:
ఫేస్బుక్ వాల్ ని భక్తి ఛానెల్ లా మార్చేసి,కొత్త కొత్త పురాణాలు, కొత్త కధలు పోస్ట్ చేసేవాళ్ళు ఉన్నారు.స్వామి పరిపూర్ణనానంద,చాగంటి కోటేశ్వర రావు గారు,గరికపాటి గారి శిష్య పరమాణువులు వీళ్ళు.

2.ట్యాగ్ బృందం:
ఎందుకు టాగ్ చేస్తారో కూడా తెలియకుండా, ఏడా పెడా ప్రతి పోస్ట్ లోను అందరిని టాగ్ చేసేవాళ్ళు కొంత మంది.గోయింగ్ టు షిరిడి విత్ 40 మంది. కానీ వారితో వెళ్ళేది ఇద్దరే!! ఇలా ఉంటుంది వారి యాత్రలు.

3.చైన్ బ్యాచ్:
ఎక్కడినుంచో  వచ్చే చైన్ మేసేజ్ లు అందరికి ఫార్వర్డ్ చేసి పడేస్తారు.
"ఈ రోజు అంగారక గ్రహం భూమి కి దగ్గరగా వస్తోంది సెల్ ఆఫ్ చెయ్యండి"
"ఈ ఫోటో షేర్ చేస్తే 5 రూపాయలు ఇస్తారు" ఇలాంటివన్నమాట!!

4.డౌన్లోడ్ కింగ్స్:
ఎవరైనా ఫోటో పెట్టడం ఆలస్యం! వెంటనే డౌన్లోడ్ చేసేస్తారు వీళ్ళు. అది దేవుడి ఫోటో ఐనా,మనుషుల ఫోటో ఐనా! కొత్త కొత్త ఫోటోలు కోసం వీళ్ళు గూగుల్ మాతని నమ్ముకున్నారు.

5.మనసున్న మారాజులు
"Feeling sad" "Feeling happy"( ఎందుకో మనం కామెంట్స్ లో అడగలన్నమాట)
" Travelling to USA with family" (స్నేహితులకు వీడ్కోలా?దొంగలకు ఆహ్వానమా?)
"Watching old movie"(ఐతే ఎం చెయ్యమంటారు సార్?)
వీళ్ళు మనసులో ఏదీ దాచుకోలేరు. ఊరు వెళ్తున్నా, నిద్రపోతున్నా, అన్నం తింటున్నా, ఆఖరికి పక్కింటి వెళ్ళినా,హాస్పిటల్ కి వెళ్ళినా ఫేస్బుక్ లో పోస్ట్ ఉండాల్సిందే!!

6.సునామి  స్టార్స్
ఎవ్వరైనా ఏదన్నా పోస్ట్ కానీ ఫోటో కానీ పెడితే వెంటనే లైక్/కామెంట్ పెట్టే సమయ పాలన ఉన్నవారు. ఎక్కడ,ఎప్పుడు,ఎలా,ఎందుకు అనే ప్రశ్నల సునామి తో చరిత్ర అంతా అక్కడే చెప్పించేస్తారు.

7.డిటెక్టీవ్ నారద
ఆన్లైన్లో ఉంటూనే ఎవరెవరు ఎం చేస్తున్నారు అని కూపీ లాగుతూ ఉండేవాళ్ళు.

ఇప్పుడు యువత పెద్దవాళ్ళని "ఇంక ఫోన్ చాలు,మేము ఉన్నాం మాతో మాట్లాడండి" అనే అంత స్థాయికి వచ్చేసారు.రాత్రి దుప్పట్లో ఫోన్ చూసుకుంటున్నారు. ఎక్కడికైనా వెళ్తే సెల్ఫీ తప్పనిసరి ఫేస్బుక్ లో ఫోటో కోసం.

ఇవన్నీ కొన్నాళ్ల క్రితం పెద్దవాళ్ళు తిట్టేవాళ్ళు పిల్లల్ని.ఇప్పుడు పెద్దవాళ్ళని ఏమనలో తెలియక యువత సతమతం అవుతోంది!! కాదనగలరా?!!
జై మార్క్ జుకేర్బర్గ్!!!

Gif source: tenor.com