HOW BEING EARLY BIRD HELPS A MOTHER

To be honest, waking up early is not a cakewalk for most of us.  But it is scientifically proven that early birds have more benefits than night owls apart from getting worms. Earlier when I was in college and before marriage, I was not an early riser, I hated waking up early. But after my kid was born, I started liking waking up early(I wake up at 4.00 AM by the way). And also it helped me a lot in different ways.

• Productive:

Mothers need to do thousands and thousands of daily chores. Mothers, who are early risers can know the difference when they wake up 30 min late. By rising early, all the things fall into place.

• Me-time:

Moms job is not a 9-5 job, it is like the moment you open eyes to you close your eyes. You can get some me time if you wake up before your kids. Only Mother's know how it feels like to have their morning coffee without any interruptions. Every mom needs a break, a me-time. It is better to have some me-time every day, rather than waiting for a weekend.

• Finish all the work:

When you rise early, you can complete your daily chores. I know if it takes 10min to clean house without kids, it takes 30 min when kids are awake. If you use your time wisely, mornings are the best. I finish preparing lunch and breakfast before my daughter wakes up. She hates me being in the kitchen. Rest of the chores I can manage it after she wakes up.

• Few distractions:

The most peaceful time you find. Set your priorities at this time. If you would like to read a book, or listen to your favourite music, or watch a video you can clearly enjoy without any distractions. It is completely your time without any waitings or ant distractions.

• Early birds are happier:

If you get up early and get some sunshine, you can get more of vitamin D, which is the most needed vitamin for mothers. Which implies better mood, happy life!!
If you can finish cooking, no question of outside food, so you will become healthier too.

If you are happy with your time zone, stick to that. Mornings are not everyone's cup of tea. But if you want to improve your lifestyle and be happier, you can definitely consider rising mornings, it makes a huge difference.
Happy motherhood!!
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BEING SELF DISCIPLINED MADE SIMPLE: 10 TIPS

To achieve progress, the biggest struggle is within us. That is why we need self-discipline. If we are on diet or aiming for weight loss or aiming for good future, whatever the goal is, there will be some days we need a pat on the back for us to head towards our goal. Family or friends cannot motivate you at every point of time; you should give encouragement to you. Motivation can give us temporary encouragement, but self-discipline can pave the way for our goal.

These are the 10 tips to become self-disciplined:

1. You need a strong motive: What do you want to achieve? Why you actually started this? Your goal should drive you till you achieve that. Make a strong motivation for your goal. List out what you get by achieving that goal. Strong your goal, less you needs discipline.

2. Write it on a paper: Write your goals, the halt points and the ways to achieve goal etc on a paper. Here digital devices like digital memos, dairies are not going to work. Go back to the old school. Write down on a paper what you feel about. If possible design a tracker.

3. Know your breakpoint: You are the only person who knows your breakpoint. For instance, you are planning to digitally detox, but you have a favourite channel which uploads every weekend, you are not able to hold yourself when it is weekend, that will be your breakpoint. So you need to create a work for yourself at that time if you have a strong goal for a digital detox.

4. Set the execution plan and a clear goal: If your goal is weight loss, set a perfect execution plan and the main thing is set a clear goal. Your goal should not be like “ I should lose some weight”. It should be “I need to lose 10 kgs in 3 months”. Your goal should be as clear as this statement.

5. Create habits that match your goal:

“We first make our habits, and then habits make us”- Anonymous

Habits can make our lifestyle. If your habits are matching your goal then doubtlessly you need to change your habits.  For instance, if you are trying to crack a competitive exam, and your hobby is to hang out with friends, you cannot achieve your goal. Change your habits that are becoming obstacles for your goal.

6. Keep it simple step by step:

Discipline, the word itself gives a harsh feeling. Self-discipline means love you are showering yourself for better you. You need to take step by step to reach your goal. Make it simple, one at a time.

7. Change your perception about willpower: You think you are weak at times, don’t underestimate your will power. It can do miracles. Yes, you have breakpoints, but you can overcome your breakpoint. Believe in yourself. Many self-help books, videos are available for instant encouragement.

8. Have a backup plan:

Having a backup plan makes your journey smooth. There will be times you become helpless to change the situation. Backup plans will help you every time.

9. Forgive yourself for mistakes: If you can’t forgive your mistakes, then who will? Be gentle with yourself. Mistakes happen, accept it and move on.

10. Reward yourself:

Only the achiever can understand how difficult to cross that step. Whenever you feel you achieved something in your process reward yourself with a small shopping or a dinner date or anything you feel happy.

Your aim must be designing a great self, but not to suppress your temptations for a certain period of time and do as you wish after achieving your goal. Self-discipline is practice. So what are the changes you are going to make today?

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Why adversities are good??

No person life is a cakewalk. It has both difficulties and luxuries. Thus it attains equilibrium. From the time of Ramayana and Mahabharata, this cycle continued. It makes me realize few things.

1. Difficult times brings the most bravest person within us : Comfort and ease cannot bring out the brave side of us, only difficult times does. Of course it gives agony, but it makes us fight, makes us strong and brave. In Ramayana, Lord Hanuman seeing his soldiers tensed faces, he decided to fly to Lanka. Until then he doesn't know he can do it. Adverse conditions makes us brave.

2. It blows off the masks of the people: When you are in misfortune, you can see the real colors of your family or friends. During Draupadi's Disrobement (Draupadi Vastrapaharanam) her own father-in-law, the King turned blind eye on her. Our problems will show the true colors of people.

3.There is something that we can learn from this: "Every lesson comes with the mask of problem". In Mahabharata, during exile Pandavas didn't waste time of 12 years. Arjuna got "Pasupatastram",  most powerful astra in war, and Yudhistara learnt "Aksha satra", science of dice, by which, even if he invited to dice game again, Yudhistara can win.

4. Teaches us how to let go and accept the present: Some times, we cannot do with problems, either is financial, psychological or physical, other than accepting it. There's nothing wrong in that. Pandavas who ruled whole India, once were on exile and did their daily chores by themselves, served a small king Virata. They accepted the situation and acted upon.

5.Makes us strong and balanced: It's obvious that difficult times throws us in unstable mental condition. In order to come up we need a strong and balanced mind. In Ramayana, Lord Rama was in deep agony when Seetha Maa was kidnapped. Her didn't lose his temper on Laxmana, who left her behind. With balanced mind, he fought for Seetha Maa. 

Many people may not believe Ramayana and Mahabharata was happened. But there's nothing wrong in taking lessons from those.

If you encounter a wolf, and you have no help, take "bravery" as a sword from your soul, and fight with wolf called "Problem".

If you fail or succeed, you will know how to deal with wolves. Remember there's no place for cowards in forest!! Nothing can substitute Experience!!!!

Best advice!!!

Once my dad was pressurised in his office to sign a file. He was a government employee. He rejected it directly, but his boss and boss's boss already took bribe and forced my father to sign the particular file.
My dad rejected the file as it was out of norms. The whole office were against my dad, forced him to sign the file.

At dinner, we discussed the situation.I asked my dad, why didn't you sign the file when you are so much pressurised? My dad answered,  "Remember my words!! Dont leave your morals for anything or anyone else. It may be fear (of losing something) or desire (of having something) never ever leave your morals!! You do your duty perfectly, rest will be good. I'm in a responsible public service post, I don't care what the boss says. I was bothered only the file is as per norms or not. Even when you got pressure from your peers or boss, you stick to your duty. No one can threaten you."

I couldn't forget that words!!

P.S: My father stood stubborn, he got ready for transfers. This prolonged up to 3weeks, suddenly, the district collector came to this scene and stood beside my father and encouraged not to sign the file. The problem ended peacefully.