Mother's day???

In view of mother's day, my WhatsApp Instagram accounts flooded with mother's day wishes and pictures how they love their Mom.
I never understand why we celebrate mother's day?!! Just one day in an year?? Forget and judge her remaining 364 days?
Why??
Every mom is judged for breastfeeding in public.
Not all husbands can handle post patrum depression.
All family members, prompAts how to be a good mom!!
Every head in between two ears, nod for the idea, to drop your career, just because you are a mother!!
School teachers or other mothers point out flaws in you and suggests how to rear kids.
Even own children will ask sometimes, "what did you do as a mother to me?"

Every person, whether it's a male or female, judge mothers.
Without mothers we are nothing. A
Our luxeries are the sacrifices they made.
Our illness becomes reason for mother's pain.
Our depression becomes reason for mother's agony.
Our hunger is mom's hunger.
Whom ever comes as obstacle in our path, moms will come to rescue (even if it is Dad, mom doesn't care)

All the sisters, daughters, wives, mothers are futures and present mothers. Let us shower our love everyday on them, not only on a single day.

Why adversities are good??

No person life is a cakewalk. It has both difficulties and luxuries. Thus it attains equilibrium. From the time of Ramayana and Mahabharata, this cycle continued. It makes me realize few things.

1. Difficult times brings the most bravest person within us : Comfort and ease cannot bring out the brave side of us, only difficult times does. Of course it gives agony, but it makes us fight, makes us strong and brave. In Ramayana, Lord Hanuman seeing his soldiers tensed faces, he decided to fly to Lanka. Until then he doesn't know he can do it. Adverse conditions makes us brave.

2. It blows off the masks of the people: When you are in misfortune, you can see the real colors of your family or friends. During Draupadi's Disrobement (Draupadi Vastrapaharanam) her own father-in-law, the King turned blind eye on her. Our problems will show the true colors of people.

3.There is something that we can learn from this: "Every lesson comes with the mask of problem". In Mahabharata, during exile Pandavas didn't waste time of 12 years. Arjuna got "Pasupatastram",  most powerful astra in war, and Yudhistara learnt "Aksha satra", science of dice, by which, even if he invited to dice game again, Yudhistara can win.

4. Teaches us how to let go and accept the present: Some times, we cannot do with problems, either is financial, psychological or physical, other than accepting it. There's nothing wrong in that. Pandavas who ruled whole India, once were on exile and did their daily chores by themselves, served a small king Virata. They accepted the situation and acted upon.

5.Makes us strong and balanced: It's obvious that difficult times throws us in unstable mental condition. In order to come up we need a strong and balanced mind. In Ramayana, Lord Rama was in deep agony when Seetha Maa was kidnapped. Her didn't lose his temper on Laxmana, who left her behind. With balanced mind, he fought for Seetha Maa. 

Many people may not believe Ramayana and Mahabharata was happened. But there's nothing wrong in taking lessons from those.

If you encounter a wolf, and you have no help, take "bravery" as a sword from your soul, and fight with wolf called "Problem".

If you fail or succeed, you will know how to deal with wolves. Remember there's no place for cowards in forest!! Nothing can substitute Experience!!!!

Best advice!!!

Once my dad was pressurised in his office to sign a file. He was a government employee. He rejected it directly, but his boss and boss's boss already took bribe and forced my father to sign the particular file.
My dad rejected the file as it was out of norms. The whole office were against my dad, forced him to sign the file.

At dinner, we discussed the situation.I asked my dad, why didn't you sign the file when you are so much pressurised? My dad answered,  "Remember my words!! Dont leave your morals for anything or anyone else. It may be fear (of losing something) or desire (of having something) never ever leave your morals!! You do your duty perfectly, rest will be good. I'm in a responsible public service post, I don't care what the boss says. I was bothered only the file is as per norms or not. Even when you got pressure from your peers or boss, you stick to your duty. No one can threaten you."

I couldn't forget that words!!

P.S: My father stood stubborn, he got ready for transfers. This prolonged up to 3weeks, suddenly, the district collector came to this scene and stood beside my father and encouraged not to sign the file. The problem ended peacefully.

Costliest machine!!!

Once I went to hospital with a relative. I saw many diabetic patients waiting for their appointment. A poster caught my attention.
"Walk for 1 hour a day
Near to health and far from doctor"

I was not a fitness freak before, but I couldn't get over that line.
I saw many people who were diabetic, balancing their time and food equally to maintain the sugar levels.
If they don't eat on time, sugar levels will be decreased.
If they eat more, sugar levels will be increased.
Both are unhealthy practices for them.
Why is this happened??
Just because we are all habituated to sit whole day and sleep in the night, without any exercise.
In 2017, an estimated 8.8 percent of the adult population worldwide had diabetes. This figure is projected to rise to 9.9 percent by the year 2045.
Wake up before our health goes out of hands.
10minutes of breathing excercise can reduce clots in brain &improves respiratory system.
30min walk can improve digestion.
3liters of water a day can purify our kidneys.
Brushing after every meal reduces your dental bills.
10minutes meditation can reduce stress levels.
These are all minimum things with zero cost can improve your health.

In 24 hours,if we dedicate an hour towards our body, that will help ourselves alot.
Even machines need servicing once in a while. Our body is the most costliest machine,that need servicing daily.
Let our children play under sun, in mud. Never bother about infections. It's better than video games. Healthy lifestyle is the only best gift you can give to your kids.
Let's get out of couch, walk,run or do yoga!!

Do whatever, that saves your body machine.

Stich in time, saves nine.

Early Valentine

All our apartment ladies meet at ground stairs, just for evening talks.

Yesterday, one of our resident’s daughter came with some gift packs in her hand and waved at us.

“Hi Ms.B, school over?”, I called her.

“Yes aunty, went for gift shopping” , she replied.( Its sucks when some one calls you aunty in your late 20’s. By the way she is 11–12 years old)

“Is your sister’s birthday coming?”, other lady asked her. I am recollecting her sister’s birthday.

“No, one of our classmate proposed me few days back, tomorrow is valentines day, so I'm going to give him a gift and going on a date”, she replied casually.

We were like

“WHAT??!!”

SHE IS 11 YEARS OLD. TALKING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND DATING?

She bought some valentines day card, a dark chocolate, and heart shaped Key chain and other stuff.

She used more words like baby, my -ex, crush, insta-feed, late night messages in her conversation.

I couldn't digest what she said.

What is she saying to her younger sister?

Get into relation as soon as you hit 10 years.

For every Feb14, buy something in heart shape or chocolates and gift it to somebody. But make sure you get something in return.

I don't think her parents accept this kind of freedom at this age.

What if her relation crosses the line?

If the other person takes advantage, what will happen to her life?

She is immature to understand the upcoming consequences. It may or maynot happen but there is nothing wrong in being cautious.

I was really shocked at her attitude.

Next 10 minutes I told her to concentrate on her studies and skills. These relationships can wait.

She may think that I’m nagging, but at some ponit of time she may remember my words.

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ఒకప్పుడు

మార్క్ జుకేర్బర్గ్ ఏ ముహూర్తనమొదలు పెట్టాడో కానీ యువత ని బాగా ఆకట్టుకుంది.అప్పటివరకూ పిల్లల్ని చదువు విషయం లో మాత్రమే తిట్టే తల్లితండ్రులకు కొత్త కోణం దొరికింది.
స్మార్ట్ ఫోన్ లు వచ్చాక దానికి ఇంకా డిమాండ్ పెరిగింది.

" ఎప్పుడు చూసినా ఆ ఫేస్ బుక్ లో ఉంటావు ఎం చేస్తార్రా!!" ఒక బంధువు అనుమానం.

"మా పిల్లలు అస్సలు చదవట్లేదండి, పొద్దున్న లేవగానే ఫేసుబుక్ ఓపెన్ చేస్తాడు.ఇంక అంతే!ఆ ఫోన్ లించి బుర్ర పైకి ఎత్తరు" ఒక తండ్రి ఆగ్రహం.

"ఈ సెల్ వచ్చాక పిల్లలు ఎం తింటున్నారో కూడా చూస్కోవట్లేదు.తిండికి ఫోటో మాత్రం తీసుకుంటారు" ఒక తల్లి ఆవేదన.

"హే నేను పెట్టిన 'ఇడ్లి తింటున్నా 'అనే పోస్ట్ కి ఎన్ని  లైక్స్ వచ్చాయో చూసావా?" ఒక ఫ్రెండ్ ఆనందం.

"పిల్లలు పాడైపోతున్నారు ఈ ఫేస్బుక్ వచ్చాక.పెళ్లిళ్లు కూడా ఫేస్బుక్ లొనే చేసేసుకుంటున్నారు. అసలు ఈ ఫేస్బుక్ ని బాన్ చెయ్యాలి" ఒక పెద్దాయన ఆక్రోశం.

తల్లి తండ్రి, చుట్టుపక్కల వాళ్ళు,బంధువులు, ఇంటికొచ్చేవాళ్ళు, ఆఖరికి మన ఇంటి పనిమనుషులు అందరికి వచ్చిన కామన్ డౌట్ పిల్లలు అంతంత సేపు సెల్ ఫోన్లో ఎం చేస్తున్నారు? ఏం చేస్తున్నారు?

వైఫై కట్టేసే తల్లిదండ్రులు కొంతమంది అయితే, సెల్ ఫోన్ లాగేసుకునే వాళ్ళు కొంతమంది. ఫేస్బుక్ దారుణాలు పేపర్ లో చదివి ఆందోళన పడేవాళ్ళు కొంత మంది అయితే, ఇవన్ని చదివి పిల్లల్ని ఫేస్బుక్ కి దూరం గా ఉండమని నెత్తి నోరు కొట్టుకునేవాళ్లు కొంత మంది.

ఇవన్నీ ఎందుకని పిల్లలు కొంత మంది పెద్దవాళ్లను ఫేస్బుక్ లోకి తీస్కొచారు, కొంతమంది పెద్దవాళ్ళు పిల్లల్ని అడిగి వచ్చారు,కొంత మంది ఏం జరుగుతుందో చూడడానికి వచ్చారు.. అక్కడే మొదలయ్యింది "సీనియర్ ఫేస్బుక్".

ప్రస్తుతం
(చాలా మంది ఫేస్బుక్ లోకి వచ్చేసారు.వారిలో సీనియర్ సిటిజన్స్ ని మాత్రమే నేను వర్గీకరించాను.)

1.భక్తజనం:
ఫేస్బుక్ వాల్ ని భక్తి ఛానెల్ లా మార్చేసి,కొత్త కొత్త పురాణాలు, కొత్త కధలు పోస్ట్ చేసేవాళ్ళు ఉన్నారు.స్వామి పరిపూర్ణనానంద,చాగంటి కోటేశ్వర రావు గారు,గరికపాటి గారి శిష్య పరమాణువులు వీళ్ళు.

2.ట్యాగ్ బృందం:
ఎందుకు టాగ్ చేస్తారో కూడా తెలియకుండా, ఏడా పెడా ప్రతి పోస్ట్ లోను అందరిని టాగ్ చేసేవాళ్ళు కొంత మంది.గోయింగ్ టు షిరిడి విత్ 40 మంది. కానీ వారితో వెళ్ళేది ఇద్దరే!! ఇలా ఉంటుంది వారి యాత్రలు.

3.చైన్ బ్యాచ్:
ఎక్కడినుంచో  వచ్చే చైన్ మేసేజ్ లు అందరికి ఫార్వర్డ్ చేసి పడేస్తారు.
"ఈ రోజు అంగారక గ్రహం భూమి కి దగ్గరగా వస్తోంది సెల్ ఆఫ్ చెయ్యండి"
"ఈ ఫోటో షేర్ చేస్తే 5 రూపాయలు ఇస్తారు" ఇలాంటివన్నమాట!!

4.డౌన్లోడ్ కింగ్స్:
ఎవరైనా ఫోటో పెట్టడం ఆలస్యం! వెంటనే డౌన్లోడ్ చేసేస్తారు వీళ్ళు. అది దేవుడి ఫోటో ఐనా,మనుషుల ఫోటో ఐనా! కొత్త కొత్త ఫోటోలు కోసం వీళ్ళు గూగుల్ మాతని నమ్ముకున్నారు.

5.మనసున్న మారాజులు
"Feeling sad" "Feeling happy"( ఎందుకో మనం కామెంట్స్ లో అడగలన్నమాట)
" Travelling to USA with family" (స్నేహితులకు వీడ్కోలా?దొంగలకు ఆహ్వానమా?)
"Watching old movie"(ఐతే ఎం చెయ్యమంటారు సార్?)
వీళ్ళు మనసులో ఏదీ దాచుకోలేరు. ఊరు వెళ్తున్నా, నిద్రపోతున్నా, అన్నం తింటున్నా, ఆఖరికి పక్కింటి వెళ్ళినా,హాస్పిటల్ కి వెళ్ళినా ఫేస్బుక్ లో పోస్ట్ ఉండాల్సిందే!!

6.సునామి  స్టార్స్
ఎవ్వరైనా ఏదన్నా పోస్ట్ కానీ ఫోటో కానీ పెడితే వెంటనే లైక్/కామెంట్ పెట్టే సమయ పాలన ఉన్నవారు. ఎక్కడ,ఎప్పుడు,ఎలా,ఎందుకు అనే ప్రశ్నల సునామి తో చరిత్ర అంతా అక్కడే చెప్పించేస్తారు.

7.డిటెక్టీవ్ నారద
ఆన్లైన్లో ఉంటూనే ఎవరెవరు ఎం చేస్తున్నారు అని కూపీ లాగుతూ ఉండేవాళ్ళు.

ఇప్పుడు యువత పెద్దవాళ్ళని "ఇంక ఫోన్ చాలు,మేము ఉన్నాం మాతో మాట్లాడండి" అనే అంత స్థాయికి వచ్చేసారు.రాత్రి దుప్పట్లో ఫోన్ చూసుకుంటున్నారు. ఎక్కడికైనా వెళ్తే సెల్ఫీ తప్పనిసరి ఫేస్బుక్ లో ఫోటో కోసం.

ఇవన్నీ కొన్నాళ్ల క్రితం పెద్దవాళ్ళు తిట్టేవాళ్ళు పిల్లల్ని.ఇప్పుడు పెద్దవాళ్ళని ఏమనలో తెలియక యువత సతమతం అవుతోంది!! కాదనగలరా?!!
జై మార్క్ జుకేర్బర్గ్!!!

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Worst thing a friend did

Its not worst thing,but kind of I didn't liked it.

Every Saturday our college used to conduct slip test for that week’s syllabus. Those are not the marks that are added to the final score,just to know the performance of the student and make them study every week.

My friend used to ask me answers every time during examination. As it is slip test the invisilation was less. I don't know whether she studied or not, but she used to ask me the answers.

I strictly didn't liked this.

It may be slip test.

It may not have any significance.

It may be for 20 marks.

But it was for your performance.

Those marks were for your knowledge that you put on the paper for 1.30 hours.

Why should I sell those marks for free??

Even if I get 0 marks it was my knowledge parameter, not only for teachers but also for me.

It is Robbery.

Just for the sake of Marks, and to boast infront of teachers, she tried robbing my skills. Moreover she is not exhibiting her knowledge.

I completely hated this.

For the first time...

1.10am Operation theatre

“Its a girl”, said my Pinni(Aunty)

“Where’s the baby”, I asked her in sleepy tone as I was under Anesthesia, on a strecher from operation theatre to my ward.

“Baby is taken to the doctor,for some initial vaccines and checkup, she will come soon”, pinni said in a happy tone.

1.50am In my ward

Can hear some voices, after couple of minutes I could recognize those are voices of amma(mom),pinni and my sister. But not my baby's cry. I asked them where is my child,they replied baby will be here by morning. I wanted to ask why but dizziness and anesthesia took over.I slept.

7.30am Still on my bed,listening few more voices(recognised they are my inlaws)

I opened my eyes forcefully, called “ amma, where is baby?”, she replied baby will be in incubator for 2 days, my dad is there with baby, and not to worry about anything. I smiled at my in-laws, said I'm fine. I slept.

8.30 am Few sound waves stuck to my ears

Somebody sitting beside me making phone calls to convey the message that they are blessed with a grand daughter, but she is bluebaby. Due to weakness and tranquilizers I could hear, but couldnt respond. Suddenly I listend to these words, I brushed off the dizziness for few minutes called my mom asked about baby.She said “Baby got brucies in the womb, due to lack of place. She will be fine, they are only birth marks which will be vanished with in few days. As she is in incubator,there absolutly nothing to worry about baby”. I repetatedly asked( rather use the word interrogated) mom,dad,pinni and sister. They all said baby is fine.

But at the moment I heard my baby was blue baby, I chanted name of God infinite number of times, new mother in me cried like hell. Thank God no one noticed my tears!!

After 4 days, 10.15am I sat up on my bed, waiting for my baby to come from incubator to my ward.

Those are the longest 10 minutes in my life. When my mother in law brought baby inside the room, I couldn't express joy without tears. I cried out of joy when I took her in hands. Those time little feet, tiny nose, her sleepy eyes, as soon as I took her in my hands she slowly opened her eyes, saw me and soon fallen asleep. I Thanked God million number of times.

I wondered how this tiny little creature was in my womb for 9 months. I felt proud, happy, grateful at the same time. It was priceless.

I never know how my mother felt when I was born, but now my love for her,  became double for what she bore for me.

Motherhood

After my graduation, one of my friend asked me what I shall do in 10 years.
I said I may have kids.
Friend asked desperatly "Is that all you want??"
I had no reason at that time to say.

After 7 years, I had my first baby. The moment I hold her in my arms, I cried out of joy.. It was priceless..

Every sleep less night, increased my patience..
Every reason less cry, increased my focus..
Every sound she made, increased my listening skills..
Every smile seemed to be most valuable gift..
Every milestone she reached, made me proud..
Every hug she gave me, increased my belief in love..
Every eye contact she made with me, made the world look more beautiful..

Now I can tell you the answer my friend. Being a mother is more than being a manager to company or designing a new Semi conductor device or being a software engineer. It's beyond that..

Not everyone can get this opportunity (definetly not for males of course). Motherhood is very precious. Every moment here is priceless..Not everyone can enjoy this in their busy career goals, but I did. Thank God..!!!

Life without Internet

Internet..Basic need after food,water and air.No one is interested to go to an internet free place..(Now even villages have 4G connections. Courtesy:Airtel ad)
But still there are few places which does not allow internet signals.What if we got struck in a place like that??
Don't worry.These are few ideas for you.

1.Read:
No other idea can beat this. Grab a book.If you are ready to listen,a book can say many things.

2.Draw:
Wake up the artist in you.Eventhough you are not good at drawing go back to our childhood.Remember how we used to draw sunrise in mountains and small hut..:)

3.Write:
This is my favourite.When you are in an internet free area,take a pen &paper and write.Give wings to your imagination.Write whatever you want.Stories,poems and on all general topics.You may not post it on website,or show it to anyone.Keep it with you.Many authors came into limelight for what they wrote in free times.

4.Gardening:
Plant a plant.If you cannot, just pay a visit to a garden.Learn how to plant,how to take care of them.
"Look deep into nature &then you will understand everything better -Albert Einstien"

5.Learn new hobbies:
Its time to learn there are lot more things on the earth,other than mobile,laptop,tab..
Learn a new hobby,like playing an instrument,watching sunrise,ornithology,learn new language.These are very few ideas.You can think many more.

6.Crafting:
Make out the best from waste.There are many things we throw out after use.You can make best use of it.Like making crafts from plastic bottles,glass bottles,newspapers,unused cardboards etc. There will be books on how to make these things.Try.

7.Rearrange your room/house:
Look at your surroundings.If you think there is need to rearrange don't lose that chance..A study proved that Cleaning,rearranging house will reduce stress levels too.

If you have cell, these ideas will work.

8.Take pictures:
From crazy selfies to professional pictures, take pictures and edit them.

9.Listen to music:
Listen to music/fm..

These are only few ideas...new ideas are welcome.. :)

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Ma tujhe salam...

You are The 1st lady i know from childhood...eventhough there is lot of age difference between u and me u played all the weird games what i designed, helped me in homework...u r my best frnd with whom i shared my secrets..u know my crushes... know who is my best friend...do know how i will react to any situation.. know when i will be hungry ..know every detail of my mind..
U was there when iam going through my hard times..shared my joy and made it double..shared my hatred and reduced to half...made me learnt how to be strong and patient..
U never said NO to what i said...supported me like hell...
When i look back into my life i find u in every inch&iam very happy for it ...
From tomorrow I am going to startmy new life..I am going to miss u terribly...You gave everything to me... I should thank you every second in my life..bcoz its was u,who gave me birth...I could not return anything except love.. I LOVE YOU AMMA...

PS: I couldnt resist myself saying I love you eventhough it represents tiny part of my love... :)